Speed Dating Questions & Tips
We can all use some speed dating advice and a bit of a speed dating tutorial. From the moment we decide to explore the world of speed dating we need to know the best first date tips for speed dating on a successful evening. A chance to meet the men or women that we want really want to know. We all have speed dating questions and here are a few answers to help you on to the wonderful adventures that await you!
What to wear? How do I dress? For men, being dressed in a comfortable, clean and decent way matters most. Don't overdo it if it is a casual dating evening. Wear a suit, only if that is what you feel confident in on a daily basis. Otherwise, a clean outfit of jeans or slacks, a nice shirt, and a clean presence matter most- wear something that makes you feel confident and comfortable. The best way to impress, is to be yourself. No sloppy clothes, but don't feel you need to wear a black tie suit either. For women, many tend to overdress to feel confident. Consider the evening venue, how far you will walk and how much interaction. Will those stilettos really be comfortable? Perhaps a nice pair of slacks or jeans and a nice top. You don't have to dress up and wear your finest jewelry and most expensive dress- you're not there to scare them away, you are there to meet someone realistic.
When we first meet- How to be me You are a bit uncomfortable and that is to be expected at the beginning of a speed dating evening. That is ok, so is everyone else! When you first meet your date, take a moment to look them in the eyes, shake hands or say hello, and be sure that you are fully present in the date. Don't check your phone, instead, give them undivided attention, so that they know you are there because you really do want to know who they are. You never know how important that ‘first impression' really is- you both may be talking about it for years to come and enjoy how good that memory is- make it worth remembering!
What should I talk about on a first speed dating date? Or, The DON'TS of dating! Above all, be genuine. Ask the other person about easy things- perhaps their job, what kind of pets they may have, where do they like to go for an evening out. This reveals a lot about a person's real interests. Are they boating on the weekends? Perhaps they like going to movies, or out to the bars. Maybe they reveal that they are interested in art. All of these simple conversations can easily turn into interests to learn more about each other. Be truthful about yourself. Tell your speed dating partner about your genuine interests. Even if you don't share interests, you may want to learn more about theirs, or, you will find out that you don't share common interests, and that's ok, you can both move on to someone that suits you better, with a very small investment of honesty.
What not to say when speed dating- is this a real thing? Oh yes! Most people know that certain things are off limits. Drug use, crime and anything that basically says 'I am a felon' is easy enough to not tell at a first date. However, you might be surprised at things that can be heard at a speed dating event. Here are a few things to avoid.
Don't talk about your ex. Yes, we all know that no one wants to hear how bitter you are about the last person that broke your heart. But did you know, that when you meet someone at a speed dating event and they talk about all the hiking they like to do, and you like hiking also and then proceed to tell them about all of the hiking your ex got you to do, where they took you, what they did while there and why they were so great at hiking- you have basically been saying “I'm still not over my ex and I am not interested in you.” Don't be that guy/girl! .
Don't talk about how much drinking, partying and trouble you find while with your friends. A man doesn't want to look for a potential mate and hear that she is a late night drunk who fell out of the cab! Likewise, a woman doesn't want to hear that you spend all of your free time getting drunk with your buddies and they will come first every night and weekend. Don't be ‘ THE Party Guy!
Don't overtalk about you! Don't brag! You know that person that's the best at everything you tell them about? They can give you an intellectual breakdown of every scientific fact of their ability to do whatever subject you bring up. Yeah, that. DONT! You never want to be the ‘bragger', it's unattractive. Talk about the things you are good at, and talk about the things you would like to learn more about- we all have an internal balance, share it honestly.
Does speed dating work? It does. With a big IF. IF you take the time to be willing to explore genuine experiences within people and be a genuine person, it works very well. There are many, many successful long-term relationships that come from speed dating events. It has a proven statistical track record of success. Bring yourself to a speed dating event with an open honest expectation. To meet good people from all walks of life and for one night, you can find the connection that makes a match for you.
Speed dating is not a game, nor is it a quick fix to having a date each weekend. Speed dating creates fun and exciting opportunities to find interesting and amazing people brought together to learn, explore and potentially find love. Make friends, find the love of your life, and learn more about incredible people and more about yourself. Speed dating is an efficient way to experience and explore new opportunities, potential love matches and the possibility that you can meet valuable matches in a fun environment within a single evening.
Happy Speed Dating! We hope you found our speed dating advice useful.